My daughter was scheduled to be born by c-section January 31, a week earlier than her due date. The surgeon, the expert with over 16000 c-sections under his belt, told my wife there was a five percent chance the baby would be born before that date even though our oldest was born a week early and … [Read more...]
How to Handle Rude Behavior (The Different Kinds of Rude, Pt 2)
Last week we looked at how rude behavior is rooted in disgust: “I’m better than you in some way and you should know that.” We also noted that sometimes what appears to be rude behavior isn’t true rude behavior because it’s actually rooted in fear or distraction. Since we can’t control other … [Read more...]
The Different Kinds of Rude Pt 1
My wife is scheduled to have a c-section for our third daughter January 31. Am I excited? Good question. Last week my wife told me the baby moved into the head down ready for delivery position, so she could essentially be born at any time and within a few hours of hearing that I had a sty develop … [Read more...]
“Am I Okay?” vs “Are You Okay?”
As someone who has been working with couples for a long time it’s always exciting to see something new that leaves me wondering, “How didn’t I see that before?” I should point out that working with couples, the patterns don’t vary all that much. Considering there are four communication styles and … [Read more...]
How to Reduce Hurt (going into the holidays)
Several lessons ago I shared how I’ve had times where God felt absent, but I’ve been recently going through a season where I’ve been left questioning if God really cares about us on a personal level – Jesus died for us, but is His love shown beyond that? Because it’s been such a difficult year of … [Read more...]
How Does Your Brain Lie to You? (Communication series)
How Does Your Brain Lie to You? (Communication series) The last couple of weeks I’ve mentioned the idea that we can say things that aren’t heard correctly using the idea that one person says, “Circle,” and the other person hears, “Square,” or “Circle, you idiot.” I’ve recently learned a new … [Read more...]
Handling a Bad Moment (Part of the communication series)
One of the great things about marriage and living with someone who is closely tied to you is it can lead to new opportunities to learn and practice tools for communication. Is that a nice way of saying you’ll have crappy days? Crappy days are never what we wake up in the morning hoping will happen: … [Read more...]
Decompression Time (Why Sharing is Important Pt5)
I’ve been promoting the importance of venting for many years with clients, but the one things I’ve often forgotten to encourage is decompression time. Decompression time is when we unwind from the day. It’s like relaxing, but it’s deeper. When COVID first kicked in and I started working from … [Read more...]
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