One of the nicest things we can do sometimes is nothing, especially when it comes to talking. You know that thing that most people struggle with because we want to get in the last word or explain why we did something? Sometimes even an ill-timed sorry can be one of the worst things we can say. I … [Read more...]
Better than Others Complimenting Us
The other day my wife asked me this question she came across in a parenting book: “How do you want your kids to describe you?” Any guesses how I answered this question? The world’s greatest dad? Super funny and cool? The best looking old fogey dad I could be since I’m the age of a lot kids my … [Read more...]
Why Do Women Need Compliments? Pt3
Last week I shared a conversation where my wife told me that as a woman she wanted more compliments than I want because she feels like I critique her. Something interesting happened after our conversation... I realized she was right – shocking, I know. I still think her examples as described in … [Read more...]
Being Married to a Nice-oholic
If you were to ask me, “What is the biggest challenge you have with your wife?” (you know a question, no one asks in a normal conversation), I would say it’s her being a nice-oholic (can you guess what inspired this series?) You’re probably thinking, “If that’s the problem, that must be nice,” … [Read more...]
Nice-oholic Pt 20: Something that Prevents us from being nice
I once knew a woman who told her son, “You can be right or you can be kind.” Her son was very argumentative because he always chose wanting to be right. At her funeral, her son shared with the audience that looking back maybe he should’ve chose being kind like his mom did. It’s amazing how easy … [Read more...]
Nice-oholic Pt 19: Can We Trust Jesus was even Real?
Last week I claimed the nicest thing we can do for ourselves is consider what happens in the next life and used Pascal’s Wager and my own list as a starting point. Because it’s so important, let’s go a step further by looking at Jesus from a historical standpoint. After all, we need to understand … [Read more...]
Nice-oholic Pt 16: The Different Types of Mean
The other day my oldest said that a boy at school told her that Santa wasn’t real... you know, like a jerk. Why do people try to ruin good things for others? Oh, right. It’s because they want to think they’re the smart one. It’s just like a conspiracy theorist: “Only I know the truth because I’m … [Read more...]
Nice-oholic Pt 15: The Different Types of Nice
In the last lesson we looked how being too nice to ourselves is connected to selfishness and vanity, which brings us to an important point: Being a nice-oholic doesn’t mean you’re a good person. It means you have an addiction that needs to be addressed. No matter what kind of nice-oholic you are, … [Read more...]