There is no simple solution for when we have too much anxiety. I write “too much” because we’re supposed to have some anxiety in our lives. We’d be severely emotionally handicapped if we didn’t. Actually we’d probably be dead because we’d do something so stupid we’d get ourselves killed because … [Read more...]
Why Guys Don’t Listen to Their Wives
As a therapist, I regularly hear women complain that their husbands don’t listen to them. Does my wife complain about this? I don’t know. That’d require me to listen to her. What’s funny is a lot of women think I’m a great listener and will even say how lucky my wife is, but then I point out if I … [Read more...]
What Do I Do When I’m in Pain? (Where is God in the Pain? Pt 4)
As the father of a two and four year old girls, Anna and Elsa are regularly singing in our house. My girls love the shorts, Olaf’s Frozen Adventure and Frozen Fever, but nothing compares to Frozen 2. They let go of the first one because, as my four year old says, it’s better when Anna and Elsa get … [Read more...]
Where Does Pain Come From? (Where is God in the Pain? Pt 3)
One of the great misconceptions is to think when people are suffering that they’re being punished by God. That’s not how He works... at least not now. In the Old Testament we read stories like Noah’s Ark where God flooded the world to start fresh (aka caused a mass genocide), how God erased Sodom … [Read more...]
Where is God in my Pain? (Pt1)
I have recently had a number of people going through some very difficult times ask, “Where is God in my pain?” Considering I’m a therapist, it makes sense I have these types of conversations. It’d be strange if I was a Walmart greeter: “Hi, where do you keep the milk? And where is God in my pain?” … [Read more...]
A Tip to Reduce the Feel of Criticism
I like to see myself as someone who reads situations well (like most people), yet it turns out I kind of suck at it (like most people). When I listen to others tell me about a fight they had I’m very good at guessing why the other person did what they did and what happened next. Considering I’ve … [Read more...]
How People Screw Up Conversations
Ever wonder why they call it the “terrible twos?” It’s because the child typically discovers the word no, and they use it over and over, or they scream in your face as you try to put on their shoes and coat, which is a form of saying no. It can be so infuriating: “Stop saying no! Listen to me! … [Read more...]
There is Good in All Things (Failure Pt3)
If you want to feel closer with your spouse or friend, there is nothing quite as satisfying as being angry at something together – it’s the opposite effect of being angry at each other. Whether it’s sports related, someone you agree is being a jerk, or something in the news that’s annoying, having … [Read more...]
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