Failure is real. Some people like to deny it or pretend it doesn’t exist (those people are stupid, which proves stupidity also exists... written with love). Fortunately, failure isn’t the evil thing many people want to believe it is (yea). The truth is failure is a gift. You might be thinking … [Read more...]
Am I a Failure?
I was recently asked, “Am I a failure?” (A much better question to be asked then, “Are you a failure?”) As a therapist, this question comes up more often than you might think, and the people most likely to ask it are good people whose brains are being mean to them (notice I wrote “most likely”). … [Read more...]
Should Anyone be Proud of You?
When I was really young, I thought the pinnacle of being a good son was buying your mom a house like Elvis did. What I didn’t know was that idea was dumb (no offence to me). Maybe if I was from an immigrant family who moved to a new country with nothing then that would be a nice idea because it … [Read more...]
A Therapist’s View of a Pastor’s Affair
It was recently revealed that the pastor of the biggest church to exist in Ontario had an affair over ten years ago. This situation becomes a good opportunity to show how I, as a therapist, like to reflect on situations. You will notice I like to consider patterns I see to help those involved feel … [Read more...]
Stop Giving Men So Much Credit
Me: Why were you so upset when I said (blank)? Wife: Because you were referring to (a different blank). Me: No, I wasn’t. I said (blank) because I meant (blank). There’s no “read between the lines” with me. Wife: Well, take it is as a compliment that I thought you were smart enough … [Read more...]
Is It Really Depression?
As a psychotherapist, my work week is pretty much a qualitative study of humanity. One of my favourite parts of the job is learning about people and the patterns that can be found. For instance, I’ve noticed sometimes people will say they’re depressed, but they’re using the wrong word because what … [Read more...]
Dad Depression
The pattern for what I call “mom depression” is pretty easy to see and diagnose: moms who are burnt out. This is the result of the mom putting way too much pressure on herself for being perfect and keeping up with everything. This can also be the result of the mom playing the martyr too often … [Read more...]
4 Types of Wives & 3 Types of Husbands
I have a good friend who was married by the time he was 20 – that’s nuts; I hadn’t had my first real girlfriend by then (like a winner). Statistically getting married before 25 doubles the risk of divorce – oops. This is largely because of how much brain development can happen with young people … [Read more...]
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