I’ve had a number of people say to me, “As a therapist, you must have a real heart for the homeless people living in the tent cities scattered around.” It’s nice they’d think I’d be compassionate... but I’m not. (Does that sound bad?) To correct them: my job is therapist, but I’m a recovering … [Read more...]
We Need to be Fruitful
I recently had to visit the West 5th mental health department in Hamilton... not for me. I should be clear on that. That wouldn’t sound great if the therapist ended up there: “I have the best advice for being healthy... I never use it, but you should.” I will also be clear that I hope to never … [Read more...]
Anger: The Exploding Kind… Going Deeper
Last week we looked at exploding based on the following two scales and I pointed out I lost it after being Overly Patient and Under Reacting. This caused me to bottle up to the point I suddenly had an Overreaction: Impatient (-10)-------------Patient to a Point (0) -------------Overly Patient … [Read more...]
Anger: The Exploding Kind
I’m obsessed with scales... no, it’s not a weight thing. It’s hard to care about weight when your main dietary source is carbs and the second is cookies. I’m obsessed with scales for understanding things: Is it too much, too little, or just right? Who knew the author of Goldilocks and the Three … [Read more...]
4 Ways to Support Someone
One of the most common complaints I hear from people is they want to feel supported. Makes sense doesn’t it? It’s good to feel supported... but what does that mean? What’s interesting is the people most adamant that they want to feel supported (e.g. young people wanting more supportive parents or … [Read more...]
What Type of Aggressive are You?
I used to be scared of aggressive people, but now I love them. I better considering my wife is aggressive. Actually, she’s an interesting mix. She only appears aggressive with a select lucky few (yea, for special treatment). I used to be scared of aggressive people because I grew up scared of … [Read more...]
10 Helpful Life Lessons Taken from My Aunt’s Death
My daughter was scheduled to be born by c-section January 31, a week earlier than her due date. The surgeon, the expert with over 16000 c-sections under his belt, told my wife there was a five percent chance the baby would be born before that date even though our oldest was born a week early and … [Read more...]
How to Handle Rude Behavior (The Different Kinds of Rude, Pt 2)
Last week we looked at how rude behavior is rooted in disgust: “I’m better than you in some way and you should know that.” We also noted that sometimes what appears to be rude behavior isn’t true rude behavior because it’s actually rooted in fear or distraction. Since we can’t control other … [Read more...]
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