My wife is scheduled to have a c-section for our third daughter January 31. Am I excited? Good question. Last week my wife told me the baby moved into the head down ready for delivery position, so she could essentially be born at any time and within a few hours of hearing that I had a sty develop … [Read more...]
“Am I Okay?” vs “Are You Okay?”
As someone who has been working with couples for a long time it’s always exciting to see something new that leaves me wondering, “How didn’t I see that before?” I should point out that working with couples, the patterns don’t vary all that much. Considering there are four communication styles and … [Read more...]
How to Reduce Hurt (going into the holidays)
Several lessons ago I shared how I’ve had times where God felt absent, but I’ve been recently going through a season where I’ve been left questioning if God really cares about us on a personal level – Jesus died for us, but is His love shown beyond that? Because it’s been such a difficult year of … [Read more...]
How Does Your Brain Lie to You? (Communication series)
How Does Your Brain Lie to You? (Communication series) The last couple of weeks I’ve mentioned the idea that we can say things that aren’t heard correctly using the idea that one person says, “Circle,” and the other person hears, “Square,” or “Circle, you idiot.” I’ve recently learned a new … [Read more...]
Handling a Bad Moment (Part of the communication series)
One of the great things about marriage and living with someone who is closely tied to you is it can lead to new opportunities to learn and practice tools for communication. Is that a nice way of saying you’ll have crappy days? Crappy days are never what we wake up in the morning hoping will happen: … [Read more...]
Decompression Time (Why Sharing is Important Pt5)
I’ve been promoting the importance of venting for many years with clients, but the one things I’ve often forgotten to encourage is decompression time. Decompression time is when we unwind from the day. It’s like relaxing, but it’s deeper. When COVID first kicked in and I started working from … [Read more...]
Coping (Why Sharing is Important Pt4)
Physically venting is one of the healthiest things we can do in our technologically focused world because we’re all so bottled up and on the brink of exploding or shutting down. Venting is actually part of a bigger category – coping. While venting is specifically geared to getting out emotion, … [Read more...]
The Importance of Talking (Why Sharing is Important Pt1)
From my experience, women tend to be external processors (aka talkers) while guys tend to be internal processors (aka in their head). That’s a fun difference: (woman) “Why don’t you talk more?” (guy) “There’s nothing to talk about.” (woman) “I want you to tell me about your feelings.” (guy) … [Read more...]
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