One of the great things about marriage and living with someone who is closely tied to you is it can lead to new opportunities to learn and practice tools for communication. Is that a nice way of saying you’ll have crappy days? Crappy days are never what we wake up in the morning hoping will happen: … [Read more...]
Decompression Time (Why Sharing is Important Pt5)
I’ve been promoting the importance of venting for many years with clients, but the one things I’ve often forgotten to encourage is decompression time. Decompression time is when we unwind from the day. It’s like relaxing, but it’s deeper. When COVID first kicked in and I started working from … [Read more...]
Coping (Why Sharing is Important Pt4)
Physically venting is one of the healthiest things we can do in our technologically focused world because we’re all so bottled up and on the brink of exploding or shutting down. Venting is actually part of a bigger category – coping. While venting is specifically geared to getting out emotion, … [Read more...]
The Importance of Talking (Why Sharing is Important Pt1)
From my experience, women tend to be external processors (aka talkers) while guys tend to be internal processors (aka in their head). That’s a fun difference: (woman) “Why don’t you talk more?” (guy) “There’s nothing to talk about.” (woman) “I want you to tell me about your feelings.” (guy) … [Read more...]
How Will You Be Remembered? (Life is Meaningless & Precious Pt2)
In my book, 52 Lessons for a Better Relationship (a free download under the book section on my website – plug, plug, plug), the first lesson shares a tool I find very helpful for figuring out how to live your life: What are the five things you want said about you at your funeral. Do you want to be … [Read more...]
Does God Speak? (How to Improve Communication Pt7)
The last two weeks have been absolutely dreadful, yet they started with so much promise. The second phase of framing for my addition was supposed to start, which was originally supposed to be done last fall, so there definitely some excitement for this to finally be happening. This part of the … [Read more...]
A Key to Improve Communication (How to Improve Communication Pt 6)
One of the most important things to consider when it comes to communication is a four letter f word; any guesses? I’ll give a hint. It ends in an “r.” I bet that confused you. When I talk about the primary emotions, I’ll help people guess the first three, mad, sad, and glad, and then I’ll give … [Read more...]
Attackers and Hiders Pt 2 (How to Improve Communication Pt 5)
Last week we looked at the following scale: Attacker (-10)------Self Controlled (0)------Hider (+10) Each of these three positions has two types. For instance, in the Attacker category there are Direct Attackers and Indirect Attackers. Direct Attackers are like a dog trying to protect an … [Read more...]
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