An easy way to increase anxiety and to make life harder is to assume the worst in people; it’s really effective. I used to be great at this. My role in life was simply to suck up to people in hopes that they might like me because everyone was above me. It was a beautiful way to live... if you … [Read more...]
Men are Becoming Weak
Being a man in our culture can be hard. Yeah, I said it, and I’m not being sarcastic (it’s a rare occasion). I’ll even go further to say that being a straight, white, non-handicapped male has its challenges in our culture because certain people want to hate us. It’s like our gift to the world is … [Read more...]
An Important Question We Should Ask Ourselves
This week during a therapy session I asked an excellent question. It was the kind of question that makes a client glad you’re the therapist. It was the kind of question I should have asked years ago, but somehow missed it because years of dumbness got in the way. It started with the typical … [Read more...]
We Hear What We Feel
As a marriage therapist it’s amazing how some of the biggest fights I hear about start over nothing. What leads to divorce isn’t a particular issue or event. For instance, as bad as an affair is, it doesn’t mean the relationship is over. What causes the end of a relationship is when one or both … [Read more...]
What’s Good about Falling on my Face
Falling on my face metaphorically has been a regular occurrence throughout my life. Physically? Not so much. I do my best to avoid risky activities... you know, like a wuss. The other night, however, I got to do a full out old man fall. This is the kind of fall where, if people saw it, they … [Read more...]
Why I Admire my Sister
My sister has cancer... that’s not why I admire her; that’d be a very strange reason. I admire her because she has always been a thoughtful and generous person and getting cancer hasn’t changed that. I think the best word that sums up all of her good qualities is kind. She’s not, however, the … [Read more...]
Why Men Look at Porn
Please Note: This exercise can be used as the start of ending someone’s addiction to porn and/or reduce a woman’s belief that a guy watches porn because she’s somehow not good enough. Porn is a popular topic... it’s not necessarily “popular”, but it is popular... this post is off to a great … [Read more...]
Learning to Love Dumb People
I have been using ‘Learning to love dumb people’ as a business slogan for over six years now. It started when I was working at a trade show trying to get people’s attention and I randomly threw out, “Learn to love the dumb people in your lives,” and most people laughed and were then open to what I … [Read more...]
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