One of the great things about marriage and living with someone who is closely tied to you is it can lead to new opportunities to learn and practice tools for communication. Is that a nice way of saying you’ll have crappy days? Crappy days are never what we wake up in the morning hoping will happen: … [Read more...]
We Don’t Always Hear What’s Actually Said (with bonus tips)
Communication is difficult because it can be hard to line up what you’re saying with what people are hearing. Sometimes we say “Circle,” and people hear “Square,” or “Circle, you idiot”; it all depends on how our brain is feeling in the moment. It’s amazing how often words are misinterpreted or … [Read more...]
Decompression Time (Why Sharing is Important Pt5)
I’ve been promoting the importance of venting for many years with clients, but the one things I’ve often forgotten to encourage is decompression time. Decompression time is when we unwind from the day. It’s like relaxing, but it’s deeper. When COVID first kicked in and I started working from … [Read more...]
Coping (Why Sharing is Important Pt4)
Physically venting is one of the healthiest things we can do in our technologically focused world because we’re all so bottled up and on the brink of exploding or shutting down. Venting is actually part of a bigger category – coping. While venting is specifically geared to getting out emotion, … [Read more...]
Venting (Why Sharing is Important Pt3)
In the last two lessons, we looked at the importance of talking and journaling. Both of these activities fall in the category of venting. Learning to vent in a healthy way is one of the most important things we can learn to do, especially when our world has become so tap driven (e.g. texting and … [Read more...]
The Importance of Journaling (Why Sharing is Important Pt2)
Talking is very important, but there’s something that is sometimes even more important (I think I heard women gasping). Sometimes the best thing for us is to journal. When I suggest this to most guys their response is “Ew.” I get it, but when I say journal, I’m not saying we should be like an … [Read more...]
The Importance of Talking (Why Sharing is Important Pt1)
From my experience, women tend to be external processors (aka talkers) while guys tend to be internal processors (aka in their head). That’s a fun difference: (woman) “Why don’t you talk more?” (guy) “There’s nothing to talk about.” (woman) “I want you to tell me about your feelings.” (guy) … [Read more...]
How Does a Humble Person Talk?
In the last lesson we considered the idea that being humble sits in the middle between Appearing Cocky and Self Deprecating where Humble is about not always being first or always being last. In this lesson, let’s go a little further. It’s one thing to say we need to be humble, but if we don’t know … [Read more...]
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