As a therapist I need to accept that I can only help people who want help. I need to try to inspire them to want change, but at a certain point I need to let them be as they choose. I can’t help people unless they’re ready and that often means they need to hit rock bottom. Ultimately, as long as … [Read more...]
It’s Always 50% Your Fault
In therapy I have found there are two main groups of people. There are the ‘it’s all my fault’ people who are brilliant at making everything that goes wrong somehow their fault. I once had someone apologize for the weather and admitted they felt responsible for it not being nicer out. This type … [Read more...]
Caring about Jesus dying can be a sign of shame
Jesus dying on the cross and rising again is the foundation of Christianity making it unfathomably important to believers. That being said, there is a point where it can become more of an obsession that leads to shame and self deprecation. I was recently at the annual conference for the group … [Read more...]
Am I Guarded or Think I’m Superior?
I was recently at my ordination group’s annual conference (the governing body who let me be a reverend), so there was a lot of really nice people there... minus me. It’s not that I don’t want to be nice; it’s just my automatic thoughts can be... less than nice. Part of this less than niceness lead … [Read more...]
A Test to See How Superficial You Are
After thirteen years of working on my emotional health I thought I had reached a pretty impressive level... and as you can probably guess, that’s exactly when I realized I’m not as healthy as I thought. In one simple test I learned I still have a strong superficial side. Yea for a growth … [Read more...]
10 Reasons the Amount of Sex Might be Lacking in Your Relationship
Recently, a common theme that has come up in my therapy practice (for some reason the issues I see tend to come in waves) is that some couples aren’t satisfied with the amount of sex they have in their relationship, or more accurately, one person in the relationship isn’t satisfied with the amount … [Read more...]
Money CAN buy happiness
Ecclesiastes (5:19b) “To enjoy your work and accept your lot in life—this is indeed a gift from God.” I remember reading an interview with one of the wealthiest men in the world who made his money off of owning properties. The interviewer asked him what was enough, and his response was very … [Read more...]
Parenting Tips from Someone who Shouldn’t be Giving Parenting Tips
What’s an easy way to tick off a parent? Tell them how to parent, so... happy Mother’s Day. I’m going to give some parenting advice. After all, I am the parent of a 6 week old, so I clearly know what it takes to be a parent. Sarcasm aside (weird, right?), as a therapist who works with parents I … [Read more...]
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