I used to think “bad” things happening were inevitable, but now I see it differently; bad isn’t always bad. I now understand what William Shakespeare wrote in Hamlet, “There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.” Whether something is good or bad is all in how you look at … [Read more...]
What is Love?
Many people think that love is a feeling, but it’s so much more than that. True love is an act of patience, kindness and grace. It is a gift we share. It’s not something we can demand or command. True love isn’t earned; it is simply given. Love is the way we act not the way we feel. When Jesus … [Read more...]
The Importance of Comparing
One of the best lessons I’ve ever learned is in the book The Spirituality of Imperfection. The lesson is given by a Rabbi who tells his disciples that everyone needs to have two pockets: one for gold and one for dirt. On the one hand, we are as precious as gold, and on the other, we’re as base as … [Read more...]
Unnecessary Judgement
Last week I discussed unnecessary guilt... if you didn’t read it I hope you now feel necessary guilt... just kidding... no, really; I’m kidding. Oh no, I likely really upset you. I’m such a horrible person... And yes, that was an example of unnecessary guilt. I’m brilliant... and that’s … [Read more...]
Unnecessary Guilt
A few weeks ago I wrote that having anxiety is a gift even though it can feel like quite the opposite. Another one of these gifts that is often considered a burden is guilt, but guilt is a wonderful thing because it is a powerful teacher and accountability partner. Guilt teaches us when something … [Read more...]
How to Start Conversations
Most people are surprised to hear that I am naturally a shy person because I often come across as an extrovert, especially since I love public speaking. This impression is especially prevalent when I’m in a leadership position since I tend to have more courage to speak up. When I’m with peers, … [Read more...]
How to Reduce Anxiety
Anxiety is a gift... I hope writing that doesn’t tick you off. Either way, it’ll make sense by the end of this article. Fortunately, for anyone who doesn’t enjoy this gift, I have two remedies to remove almost all anxiety from your life. The first is particularly simple and easy to follow. To … [Read more...]
Partners are Not a Trashcan (Part 2): What They Actually Are
As we discussed last week, your partner is not a trashcan. We can’t shove whatever we want down their throats and expect them to say THANK YOU. Your partner is more like... a toilet. This will make sense in a minute or two... or an hour depending on how slow you read. And yes, I’m aware I need … [Read more...]