Before grade eight I was a husky kid. You could say “big boned...” if you want to lie. My bones were very normal. I was chunks-ahoy, flubby bubby, plump-zilla. I was never “fat.” I would say I had functional chunk because my weight helped me be stronger in sports. I was big enough to be hard … [Read more...]
Guys & Girls Can’t be Friends… Most of the Time (7 Types of relationships for guys & girls not dating)
I have made many young people angry over the years with my claim that guys and girls can almost never be friends. If they are adamant that I’m wrong, what I sometimes add next is almost guaranteed to make them angry… which I’ll share shortly. A million years ago when I was a teenager, I worked at … [Read more...]
3 Fascinating Studies about Men & Women
As a marriage therapist I often get asked if there are any good books I can recommend. I like to recommend The Devil in the White City. It’s clearly a strange title, so when they ask what it’s about, I tell them it’s the true account of the first documented case of a psychopathic murderer. They … [Read more...]
Why You Want Your Man to Have a Dad-Bod
There are five main red flags I like to give women if they’re married and wonder if they have a potentially bigger issue with their partner going on that needs to be addressed, which are the same five red flags I give a woman interested in dating a guy. (If you want the answer to the title, you can … [Read more...]
It’s Not You; It’s Him
I recently had a friend tell me that she went out with a guy a few months ago, but she wasn’t interested enough for a second date. Despite her disinterest, he continued asking her out and whether it was more his persistence or her just feeling particularly lonely, she gave it another try. On the … [Read more...]
Finding the One & Online Dating
As a therapist and officiant I meet a lot of couples, and the most common question I ask is: “How did you two meet?” From my sample of couples, about half meet online and the other half meet through friends. Thus, if you want to find someone to date, these are the two areas on which you should be … [Read more...]
Questions You Should Ask When You Date
Dating is exciting, buuutttttttttt it can really suck. I’d even argue it gets suckier as you get older because us older folk get more set in our ways, we collect baggage and responsibilities (sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between them), and it becomes harder to find things to do … [Read more...]
How to Save Your Relationship & Why am I Single?
As an award winning therapist... I threw the ‘award winning’ part because I want to sound professional... and it’s nice to have something to brag about for a change. But as an award winning therapist with a problem with being humble and as a former youth pastor of eight years... no award there... a … [Read more...]