A common problem in communication is someone not sharing. From my experience, there are seven basic reasons why this happens. Punishment: Not sharing as punishment makes the person mean. I used to be bad for this as I thought not talking to show my anger was better than yelling, but it’s a … [Read more...]
My Fear of Wasting Time (Being Fruitful Pt2)
I’ve had a number of people say to me, “As a therapist, you must have a real heart for the homeless people living in the tent cities scattered around.” It’s nice they’d think I’d be compassionate... but I’m not. (Does that sound bad?) To correct them: my job is therapist, but I’m a recovering … [Read more...]
What’s the Underlying Fear that Fuels You?
When I was in my teens, I didn’t dream of being someone who made a lot of money through business or someone who was a doctor helping people in a practical way... which kind of makes me sound uncaring. Instead, I dreamed of being someone on a stage performing some type of comedy routine that had the … [Read more...]
Facing My Fear
The other day my mother came running in very upset from gardening. She is the most gentle and kind woman in the world (no exaggeration), so if something has upset her I become super brave and will do anything to defend her... and then I found out she saw a giant snake... bravery gone. Crazed … [Read more...]
How Do You Handle Fear?
Fear is like being best friends with the class bully. Some days it’s really great because it protects us from other dangerous things, but there are always the bad days; the days we second guess whether we should end this relationship because it’s the fear that’s doing the most damage. Healthy fear … [Read more...]
The Emperor’s New Outfit… Revamped to teach about leadership
I’ve recently discovered the importance of proper leadership. Without getting into this... because it’s safer I don’t... the following story makes a contrast between two extreme forms of leadership. Some people like to lead (or be in relationship) by forcing others into submission and to make … [Read more...]
What Motivates You?
Fear, pride and love are three of the greatest motivators, but only love leads to happiness. That’s a line I made because I was asked to come up with a quote for motivation. Out of fear of sounding stupid I put some thought into it... I mean out of love for this person I put some thought into it. … [Read more...]