I was recently driving down a more country-ish road, and there was a guy I`m guessing in his early thirties standing beside a mailbox without a shirt on. I think it’s safe to say he was getting his mail. Yes, I could be a detective: (person in awe) “How’d you figure that out?” Like most guys I see … [Read more...]
Can I Be Happy?
I recently had a friend recommend I listen to the song, “Happy” by NF, a white rapper who’s Christian-ish (so not Eminem). I’m normally not a rap fan, but nine years ago I bought his first studio album, Mansions, at the Christian Bookstore after listening to a sample... remember the days when you … [Read more...]
This is the “Feel Sorry for Yourself” Culture
After a particularly long day of work, I recently shared with my wife: “Some days it feels like people just want to feel sorry for themselves,” and her response surprised me: “Yeah, but who doesn’t?” The topic of feeling sorry for yourself had come up before, so she’d had time to consider it, and on … [Read more...]
Am I a Failure?
I was recently asked, “Am I a failure?” (A much better question to be asked then, “Are you a failure?”) As a therapist, this question comes up more often than you might think, and the people most likely to ask it are good people whose brains are being mean to them (notice I wrote “most likely”). … [Read more...]
Worse than a Pandemic
One of the best things we can do in our life is create a spirit of thankfulness. It’s important to have hope, to dream, and have things to look forward to, but we need to balance that with feeling thankful for what we currently have and where we’re at in order to be happy. Finding a way to be … [Read more...]
A Tip for Healing & to be Happier
There are times in life that just stink no matter how you look at them. For instance, two years ago my sister was diagnosed with breast cancer that she was statistically ten years too young to have – that was very stinky. The crucial thing to her story is my sister is great at following through … [Read more...]
A Tip for being Happier
People often say that happiness is different for everyone, but that’s actually misguided... misguided being a nice way of saying “Ehn, you’re wrong.” People enjoy doing different things. Like in January I was working on my book and it was the best month I’ve had in a long time. I felt alive and … [Read more...]
Happiness: Sam the Shoe
(A Story) Sam the shoe, as the name suggests was a shoe. Sam liked being a shoe; she just wish she was a different shoe. In her mind every other shoe was better off than her. She was a “running” shoe, but I say running in quotations because she was a Velcro running shoe, and no one with Velcro … [Read more...]