Please Note: One of the benefits of not working for a church is I can write about topics like this and not get in trouble by my congregation because... well, I don’t have one. Married men, please stop masturbating so much. I keep meeting couples where the wife is complaining there isn’t enough … [Read more...]
Marriage, Divorce, and Best Friends
Because I do weddings, I meet a lot of young couples who say their fiancé is their best friend… and I try not to laugh at them. You don’t marry your best friend. Your best friend is the person standing beside you at the altar, the one you go to in order to complain about the person across from you … [Read more...]
Do I Need an Apology?
The other day I oiled the baby stroller’s wheels to stop the squeaking. It felt very manly – I’m using oil – so manly. We normally keep the stroller in the car, but because it was dripping oil, I left it at the side of the house (I may have gone overboard with the oil – so manly). A few hours … [Read more...]
Patience, Parenting, & How Women Affect Men
My dad was a strong disciplinarian with his kids and I... well, I suck. When I was a kid, you didn’t mess with my dad. Me?... whatever; I’ll take it. With my dad you knew your place – you were a child and he was the adult. He had three kids who were continually praised for being very well … [Read more...]
How do I know if I’m in love?
A close friend recently asked me how I knew I was in love with my wife. I’ll be honest, if you saw my wife and I together out somewhere you probably wouldn’t be asking me that particular question. You’d more likely be asking, “Do you even love your wife?” If you just groaned, my wife is right … [Read more...]
What Happened to our Relationship?
A married couple recently said to me: We used to be so happy together; what happened to us? They’ve been together over twenty years and realized their relationship isn’t what it used to be. Can you believe that? Hopefully... because pretty much every relationship ends up asking this question at … [Read more...]
How to Revolutionize Your Relationships
This week I realized that there is a difference between thinking someone loves us versus feeling loved, and that this difference can be what separates marriages that last and friendships that don’t simply fade away. My fiancé, Alyshia, has a very special dog, and I “mean” special in every possible … [Read more...]
Is this why marriages last?
The more I talk to married and divorced people, the more I want to conclude that whether a marriage will last or break up is largely determined by the woman. I’m not “blaming” women; I just find that men in a committed relationship are better at accepting things even if it’s unhealthy. It’s like … [Read more...]