The other week my wife came up to me and said, “I was reading your new book,” and not in the “And I couldn’t want you more after reading your brilliance” kind of way. It was actually hard to read her (unlike my book, which is definitely not academic (aka boring)). She then added, “The first year … [Read more...]
Communication: When We Screw Up (Pt 3)
Last week I wrote that men can be oblivious, and I proved that really well with my previous week’s lesson on communication where I wrote about a friend’s situation. From a therapist perspective, I thought it was one of my more practical and helpful lessons. From a personal level… it sucked. I was … [Read more...]
How to Improve Communication Pt 2 (Men & Women are Different)
One of the biggest problems we have with communication in marriage is not accepting the fact that men and women are different – and boy, are we different. I know some people like to claim that we’re all the same, but that’s impossible when you consider one has XX chromosomes and the other XY, which … [Read more...]
The Most Important Commonality between Men & Women (Pt 6: Differences between men & women)
What I’m about to claim may seem a little Christian-y (although the text I’m considering is also used by Jews and Muslims). Despite its religious affiliation, however, this lesson is valuable for everyone to see since it has huge implications, and not understanding it has led to some tragic … [Read more...]
How Our Differences can lead to Conflict (Pt 5: Differences between men & women)
In this series, two of the lessons we’ve looked at are The Five Modes of a Guy (Playful, Middle Ground, Serious, Upset, and Explosive) and The Ten Possible Modes of a Woman (Playful, Playful & Condescending, Positive Middle Ground, Negative Middle Ground, Serious, Serious & Condescending, … [Read more...]
The Different Modes of Women (Pt 4: Differences between men & women)
In the first part of this series, I looked at the 5 Modes of a Guy – it’s pretty basic and easy to follow. Today we’ll look at the Modes of a Woman – not so basic or easy to follow. Women are more complex because, as I noted last week, they can be the nicest or meanest people you meet. To add to … [Read more...]
The 5 Types of Women (Pt 3: Differences between men & women)
Understanding how men and women are different can save a relationship because it helps give us fair expectations of each other. The last two weeks I’ve looked at the five modes of a guy and the five types of guys. Breaking down how a man works is pretty easy. Women... are more complex – shocker. … [Read more...]
A Big Difference Between Men & Women
The other week I experienced a situation that led to learning a very strong difference between men and women. The bonus is this story also points out the best way to deal with a potential fight situation, which means this post is a 2 for 1deal. The day started like most. I brought down my three … [Read more...]