In the last lesson we looked how being too nice to ourselves is connected to selfishness and vanity, which brings us to an important point: Being a nice-oholic doesn’t mean you’re a good person. It means you have an addiction that needs to be addressed. No matter what kind of nice-oholic you are, … [Read more...]
Nice-oholic Pt 11: Dealing with Shame
One of the greatest struggles for nice-oholics (and others) is dealing with shame. Like all of our emotions, shame is a gift from God (there’s a fun thought). In its proper form, shame is meant to be a threat of repercussion to keep us from doing really dumb things. It’s like the threat of being … [Read more...]
Nice-o-holic: The downside of thoughtfulness Pt1
Being thoughtful is often a very big part of being nice, but it’s not a prerequisite, which is a good thing for me. Thoughtfulness is not my strength... at least compared to my wife. Here’s a demonstration of a major difference between my wife and I (and between most women and men): Me: I’m … [Read more...]
Are You a Turd Bucket?
Are you a good person? There’s a chance you are or at one point have been a turd bucket. That’s not a great way to start a lesson (although I bet it got your attention). If it helps, I used to regularly be a turd bucket. I wasn’t the best at it since my compassion has always been a little low … [Read more...]