As someone who has been working with couples for a long time it’s always exciting to see something new that leaves me wondering, “How didn’t I see that before?” I should point out that working with couples, the patterns don’t vary all that much. Considering there are four communication styles and … [Read more...]
The 6 Types of Relationships (& only one is healthy)
As a psychotherapist, I have found a very strong distinction between people (the relationship part mentioned in the title will come shortly). The two main categories of people are “It’s all my fault” and “It’s all your fault.” There are a few people who understand that we need to share … [Read more...]
3 Fascinating Studies about Men & Women
As a marriage therapist I often get asked if there are any good books I can recommend. I like to recommend The Devil in the White City. It’s clearly a strange title, so when they ask what it’s about, I tell them it’s the true account of the first documented case of a psychopathic murderer. They … [Read more...]
What Happened to our Relationship?
A married couple recently said to me: We used to be so happy together; what happened to us? They’ve been together over twenty years and realized their relationship isn’t what it used to be. Can you believe that? Hopefully... because pretty much every relationship ends up asking this question at … [Read more...]
Will Your Relationship Last?
As an officiant I see a lot of couples all googly eyed and dream struck with each other. These are the same couples I might see one day in the future as a marriage therapist because life has a tendency to bash away the fantasy. Last week I wrote about how to find someone through friends or dating … [Read more...]
50 Great Ways to Ruin Your Relationship
The following list gives very practical tips for ruining your relationship based on real situations that I have encountered in my time as a therapist... and as an embarrassingly huge romantic comedy fan. If you can’t tell, this post is meant to be a sarcastic exercise to point out ways we screw up … [Read more...]
How to Ruin a Relationship
I believe underneath it all people want to love and be loved in return. Based on the definition of love we read at weddings, “Love is patient; love is kind...” (1 Cor 13:4-7) when we love someone whether our partner, family, or friends, we ultimately offer them safety and they should be offering us … [Read more...]
How to Save Your Relationship & Why am I Single?
As an award winning therapist... I threw the ‘award winning’ part because I want to sound professional... and it’s nice to have something to brag about for a change. But as an award winning therapist with a problem with being humble and as a former youth pastor of eight years... no award there... a … [Read more...]